Reality – They have no intention of following through on these things. Reality – They don’t love you they only need you for supply and domination.ĭangling Carrots – Taking you to look at cars and shopping for homes or engagement rings. Hoovering – Creating the false illusion that he/she is sorry for their cruelty.
These inauthentic symbols often manifest in the form of: And, to our detriment, the Narcissist produces symbols that represent things that do not actually exist. The irony of hyperreality with the Narcissist is that our version of reality seems so real to us because we love and we want to believe. (It’s important to remember that you ARE unique, only that the Narcissist is unable to see you that way). To the Narcissist, all lovers are one in the same person, in spite of how unique they claim we are in the beginning of the relationship. She may have left moments before you arrived, or perhaps is expected to arrive soon. Reality: All of the provisions you’ve just taken part in were actually meant for another lover. The Narcissist is playing the guitar and you think you’re being romanced. You take your shower, exit and put on the robe, go back to the kitchen and take a sip from your drink. As you cross his bedroom towards the shower, you notice a robe on the bed. He invites you to take a shower and you accept.
He’s dressed nicely and has cleaned his home. Reality Warp: Imagine yourself in the setting she describes, entering the home of the Narcissist where he has your favorite drink ready for you. Although she’d begun to pick up on reality towards the end of her abusive relationship, her article demonstrates how easy it is to assume the Narcissist’s attempts at being nice are sincere although his “being a gentleman” can point dangerously to the opposite. Like Tom Cruise’s character in Vanilla Sky, we exist in a continuous lucid dream state, hoping against all hope that the false reality is real, in spite of the frequent implications otherwise.Ĭarrie Reimer, author of the blog Lady With a Truck, writes about this reality warp with keen insight in her article, Sick Narcissistic S.O.B.’s. We take on the Narcissist’s version of reality – the illusion of the narcissist – and apply it as our own. This hyperreal world is the one we live in with the Narcissist. Individuals may find themselves for different reasons, more in tune or involved with the hyperreal world and less with the physical real world. Hyperreality: the inability of consciousness to distinguish reality from a simulation of reality a condition in which what is real and what is fiction are seamlessly blended together so that there is no clear distinction between where one ends and the other begins. No matter how many times you replay history in your mind, you can’t make sense of it or come to grips with what you now know was an illusion. …and that your relationship with the Narcissist was a reality warp. You’ve come to realize the Illusion of the Narcissist.
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